Kate Kleinsasser

I’m sitting crosslegged on a big mattress in our living room after a very successful sleepover with Rafael and Rhema last night. The tea water is heating and all is calm, a rare commodity these days. Eric and Rafael are working at the apartment we are renovating this morning and I am seizing the morning… Read more

This is free advice to any first time or seventh time mama while I’m in the trenches myself and the emotions are escalating with the oxytocin and plummeting with the progesterone. My baby is 8 weeks old and I had forgotten how vulnerable and raw and ecstatic and weepy one feels after the miracle of… Read more

The Sunday morning sunshine is streaming through my bedroom doorway and all is still and quiet except for the punching of my keys and the small breaths of my beautiful baby girl beside me. I glanced over just now and lingered over her perfect little profile peacefully sleeping after a warm bath and colostrum latte.… Read more

I married Eric nine years ago. As a young wife, I was determined to articulate my opinions and thoughts clearly and resolved to never image a suppressed door mat blinking meekly at her husband without a word. I am an aggressively verbal woman so there was really no danger of this phenomenon occurring (just ask… Read more

This is a bit of advice for the husbands out there. Some of you are confused and distant and others are fighting for connection. This is for the men who think women are too difficult to try to understand and for the ones who are too self-consumed to make understanding happen. I think most of… Read more

For many years I studied the complex nature of Stockholm syndrome, the psychological term used when someone chooses to stay in a toxic or unsafe environment due to a complex relationship with their abuser. For example, 90-some percent of women leaving forced prostitution return to working prostitution. Many of us hear of abusive relationships and… Read more

Ok church, I need some answers. I frequently hear the phrase “the Jezebel spirit” coming from women who have been labeled that in their past. There is a common thread as I listen to their stories and it often involves a life crisis with traumatic outcomes and the inability to cope well in highly controlling… Read more

One area of deep learning I am pursuing is the art of staying with people well in all states of being. This capacity of being proximal in joy and pain really defines our depth of relationship in community and will dictate how lonesome or connected we become. I’ve found true hospitality is a lot more about… Read more

I’ve seen the miraculous in powerful ways the past years while simultaneously enduring a season of more intense suffering and trials. The Holy Spirit met me profoundly and I learned to know His power in beautiful ways while saying the hardest yes to Jesus I have said yet. These experiences have solidified a core belief… Read more

It’s 1:55 on a beautifully sunshiny November afternoon and I’m thinking deeply about what it means to be a catalyst of courage versus a facilitator of fear with the words we choose to speak. In my recent observations and experiences of relationships, I have concluded that words, no matter how carefully curated and articulated, emerge… Read more